Pre-Marital Counseling

Pre-Marital Counseling

Pre-marital counseling is NOT required for Rev. Phil to marry you. Here are 3 on-your-own resources.

The Best Book & Workbooks

Here is the very best pre-marital book Rev. Phil knows of. It is called “Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts” or “Saving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts.” There is a workbook for each of you to fill out, on your own, and then discuss what you wrote.


The idea is to make sure you are talking through all the important issues of life before (or after) your ceremony. After all, you’re not just planning a wedding but a marriage!


There is one chapter, but only one chapter, on religion.


Meeting the needs of a generation overwhelmed by divorce odds, relationship experts Les & Leslie Parrott share seven key questions to help couples identify and overcome stumbling blocks to a building a healthy, lifelong marriage.

Get these books at the complimentary 90-minute consultation:
At the end of the complimentary 90-minute consultation, you can purchase the set — Saving Your Marriage Before it Starts + workbook for men + workbook for women — at Rev. Phil’s cost. He makes no profit. He just wants you to get these.


Order online:

  • For couples marrying for the first time – click here
  • For couples where either one is marrying for the second time – click here

The Best Seminar (is in S. Barrington)

Willow Creek Church in S. Barrington has a group class called “Getting Ready for Marriage: From Engaged to Making the Ultimate Commitment” It’s offered as:

  • a 3-week mid-week class
  • or a Saturday workshop.


You do not have to attend Willow Creek Church to do this group class (but Rev. Phil highly recommends the contemporary, never-boring church. They have 7 locations around Chicagoland.)

Weekend Conference at a Hotel

Go to a Weekend to Remember conference.

It’s a Friday evening through Sunday afternoon at a nice resort or hotel in the Chicago area (and all over the country). Recent conferences have been at the Lincolnshire Marriott Resort and Indian Lakes Resort in Bloomingdale.


It is for engaged couples (like you) and married couples.


This is a Christian-based conference. If you go to church, you’ll find this comfortable. If not, you probably won’t. They talk a lot about the Bible (which is God’s instruction manual for life, including marriage.)

Next Step: 'Meet' Rev. Phil!

  • for a complimentary 90-minute consultation
  • via video chat
  • he will get the beginning of your love story when you meet, you’ll laugh 🙂

    Wedding Date (required)
    Name (required)
    Email (required)
    Cell Phone for Texting (required)
    OK to Text
    What do you hope and dream for the ceremony part of your wedding day?

    Rev. Phil will contact you soon to set up a consultation.